I'm a 24-year-old guy who's always been on the introverted side (but I'm confident in my social skills) and have always had pretty geeky interests my whole life, and I've noticed that I tend to mesh best with people who are similar to me. I realize that at 24, I'm a little behind the curve here, but I'm hoping it's at least still somewhat possible to meet the women I'm interested in.
And yeah- I've always been into geeky girls for as long as I can remember. There's something about seeing her eyes light up when she's infodumping about her favorite niche interest that just feels warm. I can't help but smile when I listen. I'm pretty into video games, anime/manga, and tabletop games. I don't need her to be into the exact same fandoms or play the same stuff as me- I'd just like her to be under the same general umbrella.
The tricky part is actually meeting these women. I'm clueless about this step. I found dating apps to be pretty soul-crushing and I'd prefer to not use them, and while subreddits meant for meeting people have yielded a few more messages, most of the women are very far away and I'm not looking for anything long-distance.
I don't think I'm likely to meet geeky girls at clubs or bars, and I don't much care for those spaces anyway. I'm not sure where they usually hang out, or what spaces are decent to approach in or just to meet them in general.
I'm pretty mild-mannered and don't stick out much on my own. But I have a stable long-term career and I believe I have the character traits to be a good long-term partner. So I feel ready to start seriously putting myself out there in hopes of putting myself out there.
I've found that sometimes, taking the first step can be the most difficult part of a process, so any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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